We all experience something different, we all have a different interpretation of what love actually means. Perhaps it begins when we’re little, relying on our parents to meet our needs, right through to meeting that one person and promising them your heart indefinitely. But what about the person who drives you crazy, who somehow has a way of finding their way into your mind despite the best defences. Is that love?
Or is love simply one of those cheesy songs?
Does love mean letting ourselves be emotionally influenced by another, should we in fact allow ourselves to become mentally tied to someone?
I’m a little lost at the moment, I’m stumbling about. If love were to be summarised as being just two things, what would they be? Passion, for sure, and maybe selflessness? I don’t know. Passion, it seems, is the need to be with someone, the fiery part that craves the presence of someone in particular. Passion alone is lust, or so I have been told, and it appears to be a lot easier to find then the latter part- selflessness.
To love someone is to put them first, to cherish them and to desire, deep down, their happiness above your own. It should be the part of you that would do anything for that person, the part that when all is said and done, will do anything to see them smile. Perhaps most significantly, it denotes the desire to take care of them.
So perhaps it ought to be stated that passion alone ends up a hazy mess of non-commitment, whereas a relationship based entirely on selflessness might seem perfect on the exterior, but it is ultimately empty. And what’s the point of an empty, sparkless love?
The perfect combination is a little bit of both, and maybe I have high expectations, perhaps I’m overanalysing. But I think society needs to raise its standards. We need to stop giving ourselves away to the first person that say, ticks a few boxes, but just happens to walk into our lives first. Because honestly, what’s the point?
Love is one of the most powerful emotions of the human condition, so it seems only fitting that we should be a little more careful. A little more weary of how we interact with it, or let it interact with us. Because it is after all, inevitable right?